Updated March 2025
State testing is coming, and whether your kiddo is cool as a cucumber or a ball of nerves, most parents wonder the same thing: How can I help my child feel ready?
The good news is, you don’t need fancy test prep books or flashcards to make a big impact. You just need a few simple strategies that support your child emotionally and physically—and remind them they’re more than just a test score.
Here are 7 tips for state testing you can do to help your child during testing season:
1. Keep Mornings Calm and Predictable
Testing days usually mean a change in routine at school. Help balance that by keeping mornings at home smooth and low-pressure. Lay out clothes the night before, pack lunches in advance if you can, and give yourself (and your kiddo) a little extra time to get out the door. A calm start can set the tone for the whole day.
2. Focus On Sleep and Nutrition
This one’s not groundbreaking, but it is important. Make sure your child is getting enough sleep in the days leading up to testing—not just the night before. A well-rested brain is better at remembering strategies, focusing on instructions, and staying calm under pressure. A protein-packed breakfast with some healthy carbs (like eggs and toast or oatmeal and fruit) can help kids stay energized and focused.
3. Practice Positive Self-Talk
If your child tends to get nervous, try giving them a few phrases to say to themselves during the test. Things like:
“I don’t have to be perfect—I just have to try.”
“I can do hard things.”
“I’ve got this.”
You can even write one on a sticky note for their backpack or lunchbox. Small confidence boosters go a long way.
4. Normalize Nervous Feelings before State Tests
Testing can feel intimidating, especially for kiddos who struggle with reading or attention. Let your child know it’s totally normal to feel a little nervous. You might say, “Sometimes our bodies feel nervous when something feels really important, but that doesn't mean we’re not ready.” Naming those feelings—and showing them you’re not worried—can help your child keep things in perspective.
5. Teach a Simple Coping Strategy
You don’t have to teach full-blown meditation (unless you want to!), but a simple grounding or breathing technique can help. Try “Box Breathing” together:
Inhale for 4 counts
Hold for 4 counts
Exhale for 4 counts
Hold for 4 counts
Practicing this ahead of time gives your child a go-to strategy if they start to feel overwhelmed during the test.
6 . Avoid Over-Talking the Test
It’s tempting to ask, “How did it go?” the second they get in the car—but sometimes that puts even more pressure on kids. Instead, try something open-ended like, “I’m so glad to see you! Want to do something fun this afternoon?” If they want to talk about it, great. If not, they’ll appreciate the space to just be.
7 . Remind Them What Matters Most
At the end of the day, this is just one test on one day. Your child is growing, learning, and showing up every day—that’s what matters. Tell them you’re proud of their hard work, not just their score. That reassurance helps kids feel safe and supported no matter the outcome.
Testing season can feel like a lot—for kids and parents. But with a little support, some calm routines, and plenty of encouragement, your kiddo can walk into those testing days feeling capable and cared for. And remember: one test doesn’t define who they are or all the amazing things they’re learning.
If you’re wondering whether your child might need more support—before, during, or after testing—let’s talk. You can sign up for a free consultation call here. I’d love to learn more about your kiddo and how I can help.